Giving an Engagement Ring

Some couples make a mutual decision to get married at some point in their relationship rather than the woman waiting for the man to “pop the question”. When couples go this route they may choose to discuss the engagement ring together and actually shop for the ring as a couple.  There are clearly a lot of advantages to this approach.  For one thing, there is no risk that the bride-to-be won’t like the ring that her man picked out for her. Another nice thing is that they can both feel like they were a part of the selection on an emotional level.  The fact that they went through the process of shopping for and buying the engagement ring together could be an experience that adds to their bonding as a couple.

The down side of this arrangement is that there is no element of surprise. The presentation of the engagement ring is an expression of the man’s desire to spend the rest of his life with the woman of his dreams.  When everything goes according to plan, the surprise proposal and presentation of a dazzling diamond engagement ring is a storybook moment.  It is understandable that some committed couples may know that they are going to get engaged at some point and decide together when to buy the ring.  But there is certainly something to the element of surprise that can be magical.

If you decide that you are going to buy an engagement ring for the woman in your life and surprise her  with the ring and a proposal, it is interesting to consider where and how you should go about doing it.  You are invariably going to be nervous when you propose, and there is probably going to be an emotional reaction one way or another, so it may be risky to propose in public.  But then again, most dates take place in some sort of public place and it might be nice to pull the ring out of your pocket while you are sitting at your favorite restaurant enjoying dessert at the best table in the house, overlooking the bay, while the pianist is playing her favorite song.

Clearly, the best milieu is a place where you both feel comfortable that has some sort of romantic flavor to it.  Many people love nature, and pulling out that ring while you are luxuriating on the beach or sitting on a plateau that offers a sublime view of the valley below while hiking would be a nice effect.  A carriage ride through the park on a starry night would be an interesting idea, or you could even pop the question and present her with the ring while you were doing something unusual, daring, and memorable, like hot air ballooning or taking a helicopter ride over the Grand Canyon or a lush green vista in Hawaii.

When you have found the love of your life and you are ready to give her the perfect diamond engagement ring, time will stand still and in a way it may not matter where you are.  But, when you think about it, slipping that ring on her finger while you are dancing alone on a beach in Tahiti at midnight under a full moon might be a pretty good idea…

Pictured engagement ring set  from the Lieberfarb Line (www.Lieberfarb.com).

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